Friday, September 25, 2009

Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones, But Names Will Never Hurt Me?

Post Edit:
Just to clarify. I, thankfully don't think anyone is gossiping about me or my immediate family. At least nothing too vicious and nothing that has wound it's way back to my ears.
This was in response to some things that were said about some people close to me that shall remain anonymous. But it was so frustrating to hear what was said and know it was pure untruth and very hurtful. It was a good lesson in how truly devestating gossip can be. So don't do it!!!!

I do not know who came up with that saying, but they are far from right.
A Jewish Proverb says "What you don't see with your eyes, don't witness with your mouth. "
I know we all gossip. I think it is the nature of human beings. Some are less inclined to do this than others and then there are those who have "diahrea of the mouth". So I am not going to use this post to further spread gossip but hopefully to warn. When you choose to pass on information think long and hard of the possible consequences. Are you sure it's absolute truth? And even then does it need to be passed along? What do you gain?
I have witnessed the unspeakable harm gossip can do to people. Some have weathered the storm fairly well, but they were in a good emotional state to begin with, where others were not. They were already in a vulnerable position and this has been devastating.
The mind is not as resilient as the body, therefore, sticks and stones may break a bone but that bone will heal, usually with no lasting effects, but "names" do hurt and can leave you crippled!

4 comments:

DJ and Melissa said...

AMEN!

Kathy said...

Great advice for all of us!

Stacey said...

Kim sorry I called you a tootie face.

Deanna said...

Kim, I don't know if you remember me. I was reading your blog on Sister McConkie/Sanderson's blog..I hope you do not mind. I am sorry that someone(s) has hurt you. We have been the brunt of much gossip too and I know how painful it is. On my blog I even talk about our tongues and how words of beauty can come from them or words of ugliness. I pray that all is well by now and that you can forgive those that have hurt you...forgiving is one of the ways that you and I can become like our elder brother Jesus Christ. You are welcome to read my blog any time. Deanna Hirz

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